CHECKLIST OF ABUSIVE BEHAVIORS

Following is a list of ways that a partner might abuse you:

EMOTIONAL ABUSE:

~  Ignored your feelings

~ Ridiculed or insulted women as a group

~ Ridiculed or insulted your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, heritage, or class

~ Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment

~ Continually criticized you, called you names, shouted at you

~ Insulted or drove away your family or friends

~ Humiliated you in private or public

~ Refused to socialize with you

~ Kept you from working, controlled your money, made all decisions

~ Refused to work or share money

~ Took your car keys or money away

~ Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave

~ Threatened to hurt you or your family

~ Punished or deprived the children when he was angry at you

~ Threatened to kidnap the children if you left him

~ Abused pets to hurt you

~ Told you about his affairs

~ Harassed you about affairs he imagined you were having

~ Manipulated you with lies and contradictions

PHYSICAL ABUSE:

~ Pushed or shoved you

~ Held you to keep you from leaving

~ Slapped or bit you

~ Kicked or choked you

~ Hit or punched you

~ Threw objects at you

~ Locked you out of the house

~ Abandoned you in a dangerous place

~ Refused you help when you were sick, injured or pregnant

~ Subjected you to reckless driving

~ Forced you off the road or kept you from driving

~ Raped you

~ Threatened or hurt you with a weapon

SEXUAL ABUSE:

~ Told anti-woman jokes or made demeaning remarks about women

~ Treats others as sex objects

~ Been jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with anyone available

~ Insisted you dress in a more sexual way than you wanted

~ Minimized the importance of your feelings about sex

~ Criticized you sexually

~ Insisted on unwanted and uncomfortable touching

~ Withheld sex and affection

~ Called you sexual names like “whore”, “frigid” ...

~ Forced you to strip when you did not want to

~  Publicly showed sexual interest in others

~ Had affairs with others after agreeing to a monogamous relationship

~ Forced you to have sex or forced you to watch others

~ Forced particular unwanted sexual acts

~ Forced sex after beating you

~ Forced sex when you were sick or it was a danger to your health

~ Forced sex for the purpose of hurting you with objects or weapons

~ Committed sadistic sexual acts

Maury County 24--hour Crisis and Referral Hotline at 931-381-8580

OR National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Maury County Center Against Domestic Violence

P.O. Box 1961, Columbia, TN 38402

Or contact us at: 931-840-0916